Monday, May 18, 2026

Granite State Birthdaying

We were back up in New Hampshire this past weekend to help celebrate the 6th birthday of the youngest granddaughter, BR3. My son and the ABFA spared the grandparents from attendance at Friday’s birthday celebration at a local kids hot spot. They certified it contained the expected amount of chaos as a dozen or so classmates of BR3 joined in the mayhem. He sent us a photo of the gang which included the BR3 demonstrating her signature mad scientist photo face. That allowed us to remain home and receive the new washing machine and put it through an acid test with the mountain of dirty clothes that awaited its arrival.

The Special People I was Lucky Enough to Spend Weekend With
The Friday Party

The BR3 Look
New, Already Overworked, Washing Machine
My Favorite Panamanian had created another one of her granddaughter special birthday cakes. This one was Zootopia themed at the request of the birthday girl. Despite a couple high speed zigs and zags on I-495 on our way up, the cake survived to be admired before ultimately inhaled. We reached our destination and were joined shortly after by the ABFA’s parents which always adds to the fun. Especially since the other grandfather is prone to fully engage with granddaughter antics, freeing the other three grandparents from that requirement. I’m still amazed and somewhat mystified on where he summons the requisite energy.

BRS and BR3 Communing in Front Yard
Don't Know Where the Purple Hair Came From

Wife with her Creation

ABFA's Dad Pulling Grandpa Duty
We finally had a nice day to celebrate with warm temps and gentle breezes. I always love this time when New Englanders finally break free of cold temperatures and explode out of their houses. It was especially noteworthy in college when sundresses started appearing, but I digress. A representative group of friends and neighbors joined us for a short lived pinata before we descended on the birthday cake. After the appropriate oohs and awws when it was revealed, my son assisted BR3 with the cleaving accomplished with the family sword, Bonecrusher. It seems almost illegal that a cake that looks that cool is also delicious, but she accomplished it.

BR3 Ready to Roll

Pinata Time


Wife Next to Tree we Gifted Them Last Year

Time for Cake
The fun was not over as my son and the ABFA also planned a backyard fire. Any reader of Frail Deeds knows that made a certain pyromaniac very happy. Since the ABFA was involved, S’mores were part of the event as well. I’ve said this before and will continue to spout off about how sitting around a fire with friends and family touches something welcome deep in our genetic code since our ancestors did this every night, mainly to keep the sabretooth tigers at bay, but still. It was a lot of fun. Riggins, the blind but beloved dog, was fighting to get outside and join the fun. He staged a sit-down strike when my son tried to bring him back inside since a fire and a blind dog is not a good combination. The BRS stood up for Riggins and volunteered to keep him from wandering into the fire.




Bonecrusher Deployed
After this very fun day I didn’t expect to have trouble falling asleep but there I was, wandering downstairs after midnight. I think it was just one of those days I didn’t want to end and my brain was sending conflicting messages to the rest of the body.  In a big surprise, my son was likewise afflicted, and we ended up watching TV together well into the wee hours. While I hate it when insomnia strikes, at least I got to spend it with one of my favorite people in the world. I eventually made it to sleep around 3am while he didn’t get any sleep at all, pulling an all-nighter. He filled me in on what happened in the TV show we had binge watched together during breakfast.

Fuego Time

Birthday Girl and her Grandpa

BRS Prepping her S'more
The granddaughters, of course, don’t recognize a moratorium on grandparents’ wakeup times, especially when combined with short sleep hours. That seems to only whet the appetite. BR3 performed the duties Sunday. For some reason, any other call to wake up after such a short night would be painful but granddaughters have achieved a breakthrough by making it fun. We were joined by the ABFA’s parents for church where we ran into a couple people from last year’s European trip to the Marian shrines.

BRS Protecting Riggins
After lunch we all bundled into cars to drive to BR3’s final gymnastics meet of the year. I’m including way too many photos from that event, but what can I say, I’m a proud grandpa and she was amazing. She was particularly remarkable when it came to climbing both a cargo net and a rope to the top of a very high ceiling. This was lot more fun to watch than the dreaded dance recitals because a lot more action was involved. BR3 doesn’t like to receive the applause and recognition she earns but she was forced to endure a bunch of it yesterday. We all departed for respective homes after the meet. I had no trouble falling asleep last night. Go figure.

BR3 on the Right Climbing Cargo Net

Uneven Bars



Balance Beam







Fam in the Stands

Floor Exercise




Scary Rope Climb

Medal Ceremony

Looking for a Way Out

Fellow Grandparents With the Gymnast

Proud Parents
Meanwhile, in Rhode Island, Namesake Nephew further enhanced Great Aunt’s new deck by building a pergola for her and assembling a new table and chairs. He reported it wasn’t hard, or in his own words, “nothing a 30 rack can’t build!”. A boy after my own heart. I’m sure a McShawn’s Night is in the offing with Soxfather’s family to properly christen the new deck. Wingman attained hero status for the day with my daughter down in New Jersey. He’s currently on tour with his band but after performing in a show in Pennsylvania he drove home late at night to walk the FBR to her school bus stop in the morning and then mowed the lawn before boarding a plane for the band’s next performance in England.

New Pergola

 Table and Chairs

New Jersey Hero Work
The A-Z watch continued with four movies, all keepers: While You Were Sleeping – one of my favorite romcoms of all time, fall in love with Sandra Bullock every time I watch it;  White House Down – almost comical level action as the poor White House takes another beating; The Whole Nine Yards – semi-sad to watch, knowing what happened to stars Perry and Willis, but still lots of fun, with Amanda Peet stealing every scene she’s in; Widows – such a good movie, amazing cast with a heartfelt crime drama.


----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------RECURRING CHARACTERS:                                

ABFA – Amazing Best Family Athlete – my daughter in law; BR3 – Blog Reader #3 – granddaughter #3; BRS - Blog Reader the Sequel - second granddaughter; Cantankerous Friend – friend since grade school who likes to argue about everything, poses as radical leftist to attract women; CRC - Connecticut Riverboat Captain – another close friend from high school, renowned sailor of the big river; Curbside Girls – close friends of my daughter acquired during her single days in Brooklyn; Czech Connection – Czech couple who’ve become good friends along with their daughter (the Czech Shadow); Deckzilla – our backyard deck which grew to monstrous dimensions once my wife got involved in planning; Favorite Panamanian - the wife (of course); FBR - First Blog Reader - first granddaughter; First Friday – celebrations to mark the First Friday of the Week; Great Aunt - my elder sister; Keene Friends 1 & 2 – friends since high school from my home town of Keene, NH; Kindergarten Friend – friend since kindergarten whom I reunited with after many years; Maine and Virginia Musqueteras – two close friends of my wife – her US sisters, my wife is the 3rd Musquetera (musketeer); Namesake Nephew – son of Great Aunt and Soxfather named after me; Neighborhood Mafioso - wife's close friend and Panamanian mafia member; PanaGals – female relatives /friends of my wife from Panama; Panamanian/Latin Mafia – inevitable group of Latino friends my wife accumulates wherever we have lived & their spouses; PCR - Pittsburgh College Roommate – high school friend, also a “Minor Celebrity” in Pittsburgh; PCR+1 - Pittsburgh College Roommate’s wife; Riggins - also known as the Grandpuppy, son's dog; Seis Amigos - two couples from our condo complex and my wife and I; Soxfather – my brother-in-law (whom I miss more than I can ever explain); Tia Loca – wife’s younger sister; Wingman – my son in law; Upstairs Neighbors – American couple and great friends who live in condo above us in Panama; Wingmom – Wingman’s mom, of course

Thursday, May 14, 2026

April May

No that isn’t the name of some sultry Southern Belle; it’s an observation of what our May has been like so far. This is the weather I expected to find when we returned from Panama in mid-April, certainly not that we’ve allegedly reached Mid-May. I find it bordering on un-constitutional that I still have the central heat on in the house (of course I live with a Panamanian, so might be understandable). I’m ready for some more “typical” May temperatures, but this is, of course, New England, so, no guarantees. I remember fantasizing on the beach in Panama how great it would be to be back home and experiencing four seasons again. I wasn’t ready for an extended winter. I am glad to finally see leaves on the trees

Snuck a Photo of Wife Cake Making
So, enough bitching and moaning. It’s been a busy week around the household. My Favorite Panamanian is in the midst of creating one of her signature granddaughter birthday cakes. This one is for BR3 who turns six this year, semi-too fast (something all my granddaughters are afflicted with). They caught it from their parents who also grew up way too fast. I try to avoid the kitchen during these processes because she employs virtually the entire kitchen and doesn’t suffer my foolishness lightly when she is cake-focused. She is a true artist.

The Artiste at Work
We had the cable guy in today, during the heaviest of our “April” showers. The cable TV picture had deteriorated lately and after fighting my way through the less than helpful AI assistance online, I finally got them to agree to send a technician. He knew exactly what the problem was. The cable company made a system-wide upgrade. That resulted in the need to add a filter to the cable where it enters the house. We conversed about what an upgrade is supposed to accomplish. He was a good dude.

Hopefully tomorrow’s delivery of the new washing machine goes as smoothly. I disconnected the one its replacing earlier today and was lucky enough to get the flood it created cleaned up before my Favorite Panamanian returned from church and archly reminded today was a Catholic day of obligation. Yesterday, I had my first physical therapy appointment to address my balky left shoulder. It’s been on the fritz since I injured it carrying beer down the stairs for the February birthday party for my wife. My son did most of that work when the elevator inconveniently died for the day. The therapist was good and was able to diagnose where the problem existed. I am the proud owner of a rotator cuff impingement. She gave me a bunch of new exercises and said it should take about six weeks to resolve. This getting old is the gift that just keeps giving.

Date night this week had us back in the cinema to see Mortal Kombat II. I am blissfully unaware of the background lore surrounding this movie series. That being said, this was a very fun ride as a plucky group of semi-humans fight for earth’s future against an evil force composed of scary monsters and hot Asian ladies. Again, not sure about the attendant mythology, but this had great fight scenes and groan worthy dialogue between fights. Karl Urban continues creating memorable characters as the lead, a self-involved action movie star who is unwillingly forced to fight in the cosmic battle. There is some needed comic relief along the way. I’m sure while this was clearly made for those who understand the back stories, it weas still a lot of fun for a non-believer.

Finally, I must comment on a very funny movie my daughter convinced me to watch. Splitsville is hilarious. It revolves around two couples who are veering between open marriages and divorce. The two guys in this are classic idiots and stage one of the funniest movie fights I’ve ever seen. There are a series of extremely funny situations that are expertly milked for every possible potential, such as one guy inviting the series of his wife’s lovers to take up residence with them. Dakota Johnson, fully recovered from her Madam Webb debacle, is one of the best things in the movie as she is seemingly the only sane one of the four involved. My daughter’s recommendations usually run to the artsy fartsy kind of socially relevant type of movie I generally try to avoid (plague like) but this was a true pleasure. We must still be related.

The A-Z watch continued with five movies, all keepers: We’re the Millers – very funny R-rated comedy, Sudekis and Anniston have great chemistry and then there’s that dance; What About Bob – great character from Murray to explore his most annoying yet lovable side; What Dreams May Come – stunning visual effects while exploring the afterlife, Williams is so good in this; What Women Want – back when Gibson was acceptable, very funny; Where Eagles Dare – fantastic WW2 action drama with Richard Burton and Eastwood matching acting styles.

-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------RECURRING CHARACTERS:                                

ABFA – Amazing Best Family Athlete – my daughter in law; BR3 – Blog Reader #3 – granddaughter #3; BRS - Blog Reader the Sequel - second granddaughter; Cantankerous Friend – friend since grade school who likes to argue about everything, poses as radical leftist to attract women; CRC - Connecticut Riverboat Captain – another close friend from high school, renowned sailor of the big river; Curbside Girls – close friends of my daughter acquired during her single days in Brooklyn; Czech Connection – Czech couple who’ve become good friends along with their daughter (the Czech Shadow); Deckzilla – our backyard deck which grew to monstrous dimensions once my wife got involved in planning; Favorite Panamanian - the wife (of course); FBR - First Blog Reader - first granddaughter; First Friday – celebrations to mark the First Friday of the Week; Great Aunt - my elder sister; Keene Friends 1 & 2 – friends since high school from my home town of Keene, NH; Kindergarten Friend – friend since kindergarten whom I reunited with after many years; Maine and Virginia Musqueteras – two close friends of my wife – her US sisters, my wife is the 3rd Musquetera (musketeer); Namesake Nephew – son of Great Aunt and Soxfather named after me; Neighborhood Mafioso - wife's close friend and Panamanian mafia member; PanaGals – female relatives /friends of my wife from Panama; Panamanian/Latin Mafia – inevitable group of Latino friends my wife accumulates wherever we have lived & their spouses; PCR - Pittsburgh College Roommate – high school friend, also a “Minor Celebrity” in Pittsburgh; PCR+1 - Pittsburgh College Roommate’s wife; Riggins - also known as the Grandpuppy, son's dog; Seis Amigos - two couples from our condo complex and my wife and I; Soxfather – my brother-in-law (whom I miss more than I can ever explain); Tia Loca – wife’s younger sister; Wingman – my son in law; Upstairs Neighbors – American couple and great friends who live in condo above us in Panama; Wingmom – Wingman’s mom, of course