I’m
back in the Man Cave after a whirlwind week, crisscrossing the Northeast in
thrall to the smallest family members because, well, that’s what they’re
capable of eliciting from me. While I’m a little tired, it’s the kind of
weariness that comes with an abundant sense of time well spent (except for the
part driving across Connecticut). The week started out with the ten year follow
up for my bad knee. In 2013, the knee started giving out on me and I found
myself staring across the desk at a gimlet-eyed orthopedic surgeon who told me
the knee would have to be replaced at some point. He directed I stop running and
try using a stationary bike to build up the muscles around the knee to put off
knee replacement surgery, so I’d only need one.
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| Bus Stop 1 with BRS and BR3 |
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| Bus Stop 2 with FBR |
When
I asked him what that meant, he replied that the artificial knee had about a fifteen-year
lifespan and that if I put it off long enough, at my age, well, you get the picture.
I followed his advice and thirteen years later (this Monday) finally got the follow-up
he recommended. It was all good news, except for the X-rays, which showed the knee
still wasn’t in great shape, especially when compared with the healthy left
knee, but, when I related how I was handling it, the doc said, as long as it wasn’t
impacting my day to day activity, I should keep doing what I am. I left,
feeling accomplished in weird fashion, because I didn’t get in trouble for
being three years late for the follow up and I’m not staring at a knee replacement
any time soon.
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Knee X-ray Good Knee on the Right Side Gap is Supposed to Look Like That |
As
soon as I got out of the doctor’s office, my odyssey commenced. I drove up, alone,
to the New Hampshire home of my son because I had been invited, by the BRS, to attend
her school’s Veterans’ Day ceremony on Tuesday. I thought that was exceedingly cool,
and only complicated by the need to drive, later on Tuesday, down to New Jersey
to celebrate the FBR’s Wednesday birthday. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. My
Favorite Panamanian had to stay in Worcester to finish up the requested granddaughter
birthday cake for which she has become justifiably famous.
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| Waiting for Bus |
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| In the Library |
I
walked both the BRS and BR3 to their Tuesday morning bus stop which was fun
because they seemed genuinely pleased to be sharing the experience with me. My
son took the morning off to accompany me to their school for the ceremony. It
was a very touching experience, much more so than I thought it would be. There
was a group of about fifteen Veterans, of all ages, assembling in the school library
prior to the ceremony. The BRS and BR3 got out of class to join us for this
which meant they scored some of the cookies meant for the Vets. As we waited, a
group of five cub scouts wandered over and stopped front of me. They stared at
me and said nothing, bordering on strange. I finally asked if they were supposed
to speak with me, to which they acknowledged was their mission. We had a fun
talk after that as they told me what their favorite classes were.
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| At the Ceremony with my Son |
We
were then escorted into the school gym and I was once again surprised as the entire
school, student body and teachers were present and greeted us with sustained applause.
The ceremony was run by the 5th graders which led to some mistakes
but felt all the more heartfelt because of that. They played all the service
melodies and we joined them in reciting the Pledge of Allegiance, something I hadn’t
done since the last time I was in elementary school, sixty years ago. My
heartstrings were being firmly pulled the entire time, and I was so pleased to
be sharing this with not only my granddaughters but with my son. There must
have been a lot of dust in the air because I found myself misty eyed at times. After
the obligatory and sustained hugs from proud granddaughters, I found myself on
the road back to Worcester.
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| School Choir and Emcees |
Before
I left for New Hampshire, my wife and I talked about the importance of her
being ready to leave as soon as I got back because I wanted to shoot the gap
between rush hours for the drive to New Jersey. She assured me, she would be
ready. You all know I’m writing about this because of what I found upon
arrival. Two hours later, we hit the road and I resigned myself to finding out
what the Garden State Parkway would be like during rush hour, but the cake
looked awesome, so there’s that. The timing actually worked out well because
our daughter was a few miles ahead of us on the Parkway, driving home from her
office. Soon after arriving, we all piled into the car to deliver the FBR to
her Tuesday evening dance class.
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| Irish Pub Dinner in Maplewood |
This
took place in the village center of Maplewood and her parents had come up with
a standard operating procedure of waiting for her in an Irish Pub in the
village center, where they would then have dinner after the class let out. I thought
this was a superb decision and showed great promise in tactical thinking. I’d
been in the village center many times and never noticed the pub, which I thought
was egregious bordering on disrespectful on my part. My only defense being I
was usually there blindly following my daughter and wife around as they shopped,
so my brain was in its usual statis while this was going on. We were joined by Wingman’s
business partner and wife while we awaited the FBR’s arrival.
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Pistachio Staring at me Because I'm Sitting Where my Daughter Usually Does |
There
was a funny moment when we dropped the FBR off for her class. My Favorite Panamanian
got out of the car to escort her across the street for which the FBR was thoroughly
annoyed, as a soon to be 11-year old, she didn’t need help, something she
pointedly informed her abuela about. After class she walked the short distance
to the pub, another sign she’s getting older and more independent (independence
has always been a strong suit of hers, just like her mom at the same age). Dinner
was a lot of fun as we caught up with the New Jersey bunch in their home environment.
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| Fully Laden FBR |
After
dinner, we returned home so the FBR cold get to bed in time to prepare for the
day of her birth celebrations, turning 11 on the 11th day of the 11th
month. Kind of cool, that. Meanwhile, the cats, Walnut and Pistachio, continued
their depredations. My Favorite Panamanian had to be completely on her toes as
she put the finishing touches on the cake because Walnut was determined to sink
his paws and/or teeth into it. My daughter has been binge watching The West
Wing and drew me into her web. I’d never watched it because I always figured Martin
Sheen (a notoriously far left liberal) would use it as a podium to foment these
views. My daughter reminded me this was one of Soxfather’s favorite shows and I
sat down with her. I was caught up in the show, because it was so well written
and Sheen wasn’t allowed (too much) leeway.
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| FBR and Two Friends at Benihana's |
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| FBR Was Impressed |
Wednesday
morning I was back at another school bus stop, a few hundred miles from the
Tuesday one, as I walked with the FBR to hers. She was fully laden, carrying her
viola with her as well as an overstocked backpack. I remained in the house that
afternoon when my wife and daughter left to pick the FBR up from school since
they were returning to the village for shopping. I felt this was an activity best
shared with the ladies. Wingman, recovered from a startling bout of food
poisoning Tuesday night, joined me in waiting them out. They returned soon after
the sun went down, joined by two of the FBR’s classmates to celebrate her birthday.
That meant opening presents prior to leaving for her birthday dinner.
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Trying to get Group Shot Girls Not Cooperating |
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| Finally! |
Dinner
was scheduled at a local Benihana’s, one of the FBR’s true loves. We celebrated
her 10
th birthday at another Japanese restaurant, but they had since
discovered Benihana’s had better food. This was one of the worst managed restaurants
I’ve ever been in, but every time I felt the frustration build due to the poor
service and extended waits, I glanced over to see how much the FBR was enjoying
the moment and my frustration evaporated. She truly enjoyed the evening. She
also confirmed the unusual aspect of young females I first noticed in college.
When one has to go to the rest room, they all go, That meant four different times
during our stay there. It’s not as if we didn’t have plenty of time to kill as
we waited for the wait staff to get their act together.
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| They Were Cute Though |
After
a much longer stay in the restaurant than we anticipated, we returned home for the
cake unveiling. The FBR had requested a Stranger Things themed cake, which my Favorite
Panamanian once again excelled at despite having no idea what the show was
about. The FBR squealed in delight when she saw it and expertly wielded
Bonecrusher to appropriately sever the cake. It marked a great way to end what
had been a truly special day, celebrating a truly special 11-year-old. Her official
birthday party is this Saturday but I needed to be back here because there is
another birthday to celebrate by wending my way down my hometown’s Main Street
pubs.
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| FBR Present Opening |
We
successfully shot the gap between rush hours for the return trip today, validating
that theory. Connecticut tried its usual best by shutting down lanes for no apparent
reason, other than to snarl traffic but even that failed to slow us down too
much. We made it back in time to have a late lunch at one of our old haunts in
Sturbridge, before continuing on to the Worcester. When we walked into the house,
it became obvious it was time to start up the central heating for the first
time, one of the latest starting dates ever. I also found myself down here in the
Man Cave, reflecting about how blessed I am in the granddaughter (and their parental
units) department, something this past week demonstrated with staggering clarity.
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| Wife with her Creation |
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| Candle Time |
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| Bonecrusher Comes Out with Daughter and Wingman |
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-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------RECURRING CHARACTERS:
ABFA – Amazing Best Family
Athlete – my daughter
in law; BR3 – Blog Reader #3 – granddaughter
#3; BRS - Blog Reader the Sequel -
second granddaughter; Cantankerous
Friend – friend since grade school who likes to argue about everything,
poses as radical leftist to attract women; CRC - Connecticut Riverboat Captain – another close friend from high
school, renowned sailor of the big river; Curbside
Girls – close friends of my daughter acquired during her single days in
Brooklyn; Czech Connection – Czech couple who’ve become good friends
along with their daughter (the Czech Shadow); Deckzilla – our backyard deck which grew to monstrous dimensions
once my wife got involved in planning; Favorite
Panamanian - the wife (of course); FBR
- First Blog Reader - first granddaughter; First Friday – celebrations to mark the First Friday of the Week; Great Aunt - my elder sister; Indiana
Friends – friends we met on our 2026 river cruise; Keene Friends 1 & 2 – friends since high school from my home
town of Keene, NH; Kindergarten Friend
– friend since kindergarten whom I reunited with after many years; Maine and Virginia Musqueteras – two
close friends of my wife – her US sisters, my wife is the 3rd
Musquetera (musketeer); Namesake Nephew –
son of Great Aunt and Soxfather named after me; Neighborhood Mafioso - wife's close friend and Panamanian mafia
member; PanaGals – female relatives
/friends of my wife from Panama; Panamanian/Latin
Mafia – inevitable group of Latino friends my wife accumulates wherever we
have lived & their spouses; PCR - Pittsburgh College Roommate – high school friend, also a “Minor
Celebrity” in Pittsburgh; PCR+1 - Pittsburgh College Roommate’s wife; Riggins - also known as the Grandpuppy, son's dog; Seis Amigos
- two couples from our condo complex and my wife and I; Soxfather – my brother-in-law (whom I miss more than I can ever
explain); Tia Loca – wife’s younger sister; Wingman – my son in law; Upstairs
Neighbors – American couple and great friends who live in condo above us in
Panama; Wingmom – Wingman’s mom, of
course